If you've ever felt your stomach drop and panic set in when someone doesn't reply to a message, or convinced yourself they hate you because their energy shifted a little, then you're probably experiencing RSD.

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RSD, Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria, is something that's unfortunately very common in women with ADHD, and it impacts pretty much every part of our lives in a bigger way than most people realise. My view is that before anything else, we're trying to avoid rejection, because for us rejection feels like pure hell. And it's not even just actual rejection that cuts us so deeply, it's anticipated rejection too, which is why we become hypervigilant, looking for it and finding it in places it isn't even there.

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For me, RSD is the hardest part of having ADHD, and so many of the women I work with have said the same. It's also the least understood part, and the area where there simply isn't enough support. That's why I created this membership, a space where you can be with people who truly get it, and talk about your experiences without feeling like you're crazy.

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I can't promise I can get rid of your RSD, I wish I could. What I can promise is that I'll support you, not only with strategies to manage it day to day, but with the deeper work that actually changes things, the kind that means rejection slowly stops being so terrifying.

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Come and join us, and take that first step towards a life where RSD can finally be managed in a way that no longer consumes you.

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Who's it for? ​

 

This is for you if you recognise any of this...

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You're constantly trying to be what everyone wants so they don't leave. You read every energy shift as proof you've done something wrong, or that they don't like you anymore. Someone's a little less affectionate than usual and your brain has already decided the relationship is over. You see friends together without you and feel sick, wondering if you're just not fun enough to be included. You don't say what you actually think or feel, because if you do, they might leave.

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You say yes when you're already overwhelmed and burnt out, because saying no feels too risky. You've spent years being told you're "too sensitive" or that you need to "try harder," so on top of the ADHD, you carry this constant weight of never feeling enough. You rely on other people to tell you you're okay, because you never learned how to tell yourself that, which means any sign of rejection feels disproportionately dangerous. Criticism doesn't just hurt, it can totally floor you. The thought that someone might be mad at you can send you into pure panic.

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Your hypervigilance sometimes invents rejection that was never there in the first place, and every now and then that ends up creating the very conflict you were trying so hard to avoid. You've been called dramatic, or told you're overreacting, when it was completely, viscerally real to you. There's a constant worry that things are going to go wrong with the people you love. You've forgotten who you are underneath all the effort to keep everyone else happy. Some days it genuinely feels like you're going crazy.

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And underneath all of it, there's a loneliness. An isolation that comes from carrying all of this and assuming no one else could possibly understand it the way you do.

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If any of that sounds like you, you're in the right place. You're not too much, and you're not crazy. You're not alone in this either.

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The shift you can expect:

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This isn't about getting rid of your RSD. I wish I could hand you that, but it isn't how it works. What I can help you build is a different relationship with it entirely.

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Right now, your sense of okay-ness probably depends on everyone around you staying happy, responsive, and consistent. Inside The RSD Collective, we work on building that sense of okay-ness from the inside instead, so it isn't reliant on someone else's reply time or mood.

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That looks like:

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• Understanding why your brain does this, so it stops feeling like a personal failing and starts making sense

• Learning to catch the spiral earlier, before it takes over

• Building real self-trust, so you're not constantly outsourcing your worth to other people's reactions

• Feeling less reactive to the things that used to flatten you, the unanswered message, the shift in tone, the changed plan

• Getting to a place where, even if your worst fear happened and someone did walk away, you'd know you were going to be okay

 

That's the real work. Not desperately trying to hold it together through every trigger, but slowly needing the reassurance less, because you've started giving it to yourself.​​​

 

What happens inside:

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Twice a month we meet live on Zoom (second and fourth Thursday at 6.30pm).

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It's a mix of strategy calls and deep coaching calls, giving you practical support alongside the mindset work that helps things actually shift.

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You can share as much or as little as you want on any given day, and if you've got something specific going on, there's the option for hot-seat coaching, where I give you dedicated time to unpick and work through whatever's coming up, with extra support from the rest of the group too.

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Between calls, the WhatsApp community gives you 24/7 support. You can share your struggles and celebrate your wins with women who genuinely get it, you can reach out for support when you're spiralling, or just have a laugh and uplift each other when life feels a bit heavy. 

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Investment:

 

​£25 a month.

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That gets you both live calls, full access to the WhatsApp community, and discounted one-to-one coaching with me at £80 a session (normally £120), whenever you feel like you need that extra layer of support.

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Cancel anytime. No contracts. No guilt.​

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What the members are saying:

 

"Before joining this amazing community I had no idea what RSD was I just  thought there was something wrong with me. I remember getting off my first zoom call and thinking wow I’m not alone there other people out there like me - there actually isn’t anything wrong with me all these feelings are just RSD."

 

“Em understands RSD from the inside out, within this group we are learning to recognise the impact these thoughts and feelings have on us and our relationships with others, and find the way out to a happier life. It has helped me in my personal life and in the work place. Em is compassionate and knowledgeable, a fantastic coach and supporter.”

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"Being part of this group has not only helped me cope with my late ADHD diagnosis, but helped me start to accept that maybe I'm not insane and all these overwhelming, soul consuming feelings I get are linked to RSD. I am still learning, but Em is the best teacher I could have asked for. knowing that she not only has the knowledge, but also has first hand experience of this and actually 'gets it' has really helped me. I've also met a great group of women who feel just like I do - which is so validating"

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Click HERE to join TODAY! 

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After signing up, you’ll receive a welcome email with all the details. If you have any questions, feel free to reach out at hello@emmarks.com, or message me on 07980005713.

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